Stress affects everyone, young and old and is a completely normal reaction that all human beings will experience from time to time when faced with situations that they feel under pressure in. Some stress is good for us in moderation; it motivates us and spurs us on to do better, to achieve our dreams etc. However, stress can build up and become less of a motivation and more of a burden on us. When this happens, we talk of stress as being negative and this brings on feelings of being unable to cope. When this happens, people can often feel overloaded, under extreme pressure and very tense or emotional.
Stress can be considered in terms of external and internal stressors. External stressors are sources of stress that we are aware of around us, these can include traumas, life experiences or simply daily hassles. Internal stressors are the sources of stress that are inside us and are often the most common sources of stress. They are the thoughts and feelings that pop into your head and cause you to feel unease, these can include unrealistic expectations, uncertainties, low self-esteem and fears.
Signs of Stress in Women and Men
- Obesity and Over-eating
- Increased or excessive drinking of alcohol
- Loss of appetite
- If you smoke – you’ll smoke more
- Increased coffee consumption
- Excessive and continuing irritability with other people
- Substance Abuse
- You can’t make decisions, large or small.
- Unable to concentrate – (common symptom of stress)
- Increased and suppressed anger
- Not be able to cope with life, feeling out of control
- Jump from one job to another without finishing things
- Excessive emotion & crying at small irritations
- Lack of interest in anything other than work
- Permanently tired even after sleep – (another very common symptom of stress)
- Decreased sex drive / libido
- Stress can cause Nail biting
If you think that you may be suffering from stress you should always seek medical advice in the first instance.
What Can I Do About Stress?
It is important to realise that you do not have to put up with symptoms of stress. It may have seemed ‘normal’ to you for so long that you think that you just have to live with it. Your G.P. can prescribe medication and you may get some benefit from this. However, if you want to get to the root of the problem rather than plaster over the sore spot with medication then I would suggest that you consider Life Coaching to help you reduce the stress in your life. Mindfulness and Meditation will also, help to calm your mind. There are many free sites on the internet where you can download meditations to help you relax. The aim is to stop the thoughts ‘rampaging’ through your head and generally exhausting you. Meditation and Mindfulness do not come naturally to most of us in this modern world and they will take time to embed. Please persevere with them; your current ‘bad’ habits did not appear over-night in fact they evolved over time probably without you noticing them. They will go, but it does require patience.
If the issues that you are dealing with are too deep or too severe please consider seeing a therapist or Life Coach. Therapy does not have to be expensive, but it is important that you find the right person. A good therapist will offer you a free consultation and will talk you through what is needed and how they can help you. The most important component in therapy is rapport with the therapist.
How Can I Help You?
If you decide to seek therapy, I will show you techniques to help you manage your feelings. These include breathing exercises, Mindfulness and EFT, or Tapping, to reduce the emotional response that you may be experiencing. The techniques that you learn will become invaluable tools which will be useful to you for the rest of your life.
We can examine the problems that cause you to feel stress and use a solution focused approach to deal with them.
It may be useful to consider your reactions to stress and apply new responses which we can implement together. We can use both EFT and Hypnotherapy, to explore in more detail when you first developed these responses to stress. Often, the roots started in childhood and were reinforced throughout your life creating neural pathways in your brain and coping mechanisms which no longer serve you. Once we have identified the early events that caused this reaction in you, we can use EFT and Hypnotherapy to eliminate the limiting beliefs you have formed, and we create new positive responses in your brain.
The process can be extremely quick when you consider that we are dealing with things that you have likely carried with you for decades.